We have all, at some point, felt sucker
punched when someone we THOUGHT we knew and trusted so well figuratively stabs us
in the back. With head hung low, sometimes all you have to do is look back realistically
and honestly to see all the tell-tale signs we should have been aware of all
through our friendship/relationship. Many times we will see them, after the
fact of course, and with a self-deprecating head-slap we finally knock
ourselves into acceptance that maybe we are just better off breaking all ties.
I know that
it sounds bitter, but I feel it is more like acceptance and maturity; every
moment I waste on worrying about the loss of this so-called “friend” is a
moment of my life I will never get back. I’ve had, luckily just a few,
unpleasant surprises like this, but each time I can recall warnings — some just
signs and actions I let slide and then a few from other people who warned me
and I just chose to ignore out of misguided loyalty — and I can only shake my
head.
Don’t think I
regret the blind friendship, I don’t. For the years I shared this relationship
I had laughter and adventures, we shared victories and life. Maybe it just took
a while before she showed her “true colors”, or maybe she was a different
person when we first bonded and we simply grew apart… whatever it is over now.
Ironically while I admit to having a WTF moment, I have moved on and she has
not. Whether it was jealousy (?) or some twisted image in her head, she is
still “talking” about me and yes, spreading lies, to justify her behavior; when
I do hear of her latest antics I shake my head and give her no more than a few
moments thought (except of course for the fodder that becomes a blog post).
Do I miss
the friendship? Only what I THOUGHT it was, certainly not the real version my
eyes were finally opened to. It is much better to have fewer TRUE friends than
many false ones and I consider myself blessed in that area. I leave you with a
meme that been spread across Facebook and the Internet: "For every minute you are angry, you lose 60
seconds of happiness."